AL78, on 2020-October-17, 11:33, said:
To be fair to my partner she is not pointing out my errors to shift blame or score points
Ok - apologies to her, but I felt it a bit like this
As you point out, it is essential to be on the save wavelength on what you consider normal, light, or conservative. So that you more or less kno what to expect in competitive or judgmental situations.