Elianna, on Sep 19 2005, 05:54 AM, said:
Chamaco, on Sep 18 2005, 03:49 PM, said:
I do not know you and neither do I know Zar.
But if I had to judge from the BB Forum posts, my own impression is that of the 2you are by far the most arrogant: very nice and kind to the player you consider strong, and arrogant and sometimes verbally violent with posters that disagree with youi without having any recognized achievements.
And the fact that the achievements you have are much higher than Zar's is not- in my view - a good reason for this.
Of course I might be wrong, as I do not know you, and also because the written words can be misleading.
Also, probably other strong players older than you have developed some less disturbing ways to deal with these arguments.
While Justin is more than capable of standing up for himself, I should say that _I_ know him in person, and he is basically a nice guy. I think that he may seem arrogant in some of his posts elsewhere, because he makes statements, and doesn't explain the reasoning, and how dare a young person contradict others without being apologetic! (
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I agree that he's not always the most agreeable person on the forum, but calling him the most arrogant, when there are others that go around purposely insulting others is a bit off the mark.
As I said:
1. I do not know him personally, so I can draw impressioins only from written words; these impressions are not always fair, for no matter which person, I am perfectly aware of this.
However, some posts did make some bad impression to me.
2. Elianna, I did not call Justin *the most arrogant person*.
I just stated that he indeed seemed arrogant to me in quite a few instances, and seeing someone - who ( in my opinion of course) has responded with such a tone in the past- calling Zar arrogant and other things, was just too much for me.
Indeed , he seemed to me more arrogant than Zar, not the most arrogant person on BBF or BBO.
3. still to Elianna: you are free to believe me or not (after all you do not know me personally
), but I assure you that, in my evaluation, I am not being harsher than usual because of the age of Justin, believe me.
If anything, from my perspective, the fact that he is young tends to be a reason to justify some occasional unpleasant tones, not to be harsher.
4. As for me, just to respond to Justin's post, I always try to consider the hypothesis I was wrong.
I do think that Justin, like all people on the Forum here is a nice guy.
But some people, even nice guys, have sometimes the tendency to become arrogant or to feel "ONNIPOTENTI" (sorry, this is an italian word, I do not know the translation).
There are many ways I could be wrong:
- I could have had the wrong perception, perhaps I was reading Justin's posts in "one of those days";
- perhaps Justin wanted to be nice but in a few instances just used the wrong words (or that was just my peception), this happens quite often when writing in forums.
Anyways, I think it's right that he knows that he may give this impression to at least some of the posters, at least before he himself attacks someone esle calling him arrogant.
Then of course he is free not to give a damn about it, but at least he knows.
"Bridge is like dance: technique's important but what really matters is not to step on partner's feet !"